Can Your Secret Relationship Really Work?

Being in a Secret Relationship may sound exciting, fun and very adventurous. Only the thought of having a “secret lover” is exciting, but when romance and sex are involved then this takes your secret relationship to a whole new level. This is quite a dilema especially when you have a spouse or if you are already in a relationship with someone else. For many people, it gives them a sense of euphoria and sometimes makes the secret even juicier. Woudn’t you like to know why secret relationships have such a big appeal?

Secret relationships are quite common in society today. Nobody is judging you for being in two or more relationships at the same time. You must realize however, that these types of relationships do not always work. In fact, having a relationship that’s a secret can put a huge strain on you as a couple. The odds of this type of relationship only lasting a short time are pretty high. More often than not, the chances of disaster for everyone involved, innocent or guilty is rather quite high (if you have seen the emotionally charged movie “Unfaithful” by Richard Gere and Diane Lane, then I am sure you know exactly what I mean!).

It can be more difficult than you think to go on for very long without talking about the relationship or without someone finding out. If it weren’t secret, you would probably mention your partner throughout the day in casual conversation. Even just mentioning something you saw together or talked about would be the natural thing to do.

But in secret relationships, you have to keep yourself from mentioning things you do not want them to know. You might find it at the tip of your tongue to talk about your partner and have to catch yourself just in time. Having to censor yourself several times a day can be quite a source of stress. It also dosen’t do any good for your concience and peace of mind.

Add to that your partner’s feelings about having to do the same thing. Between the two of you, that can add up to a lot of tension.

There’s also the worry about being seen together. People in “hush-hush relationships” don’t have the luxury of going out to a great restaurant for dinner. They can’t go see the latest movie together, or walk along the road holding hands.

There are exceptions to this. If you’re keeping the relationship secret because you’re good friends and you don’t want people to know it’s become more, you can still be seen together. But you’ll have to give only appearance of friendship around others.

Some relationships are kept secret for that very reason. Friends have become more than that but you are confused as to so many thoughts running through your head. Is the guy of girl in my new relationship my true soul-mate? Is it fair for me to leave my present spouse for this new-found love? Am I sure I will not regret whatever decision I am about to make? You become intimate with this new person and at the same time you do not want to lose the relationship. Or you decide that your group of friends may not understand. And you think maybe keeping it a secret is a good idea in case things don’t work out. Then friends would never have to know.

Many coworkers who start dating keep the secret for the same reason. Things would just be easier at work if other people didn’t know, both while it’s happening and in case it ends. And with work situations, such dating might be discouraged making the secret necessary.

But by keeping it a secret for those reasons, it’s as if you’re saying that it’s probably not going to work out. At least, you’re showing that you have serious doubts about it. How healthy does it seem to be in a relationship that you must believe won’t last, so much so that you’re keeping it a secret?

While the relationship might be thrilling at first and seem like an adventure, the best way to have secret relationships is with the understanding that they’ll only be secret for a short time.

More often than not, these secret relationships may be a source of sorrow and despair. Many at times, you end up leaving your actual soul-mate for a person who you just met only to discover later on that you made a huge mistake in leaving your spouse.

So even if your secret relationship did not eventually work, then what can you do to get things back the way they were with your former spouse?

If you eventually realize, the mistake you have made and would want to get back with your spouse, there are so many ways to go about this.

The Magic Of Making Up and Save My Marriage Today are two excellent resources to help you out in this regard.

Take my advice and get these e-books and course; They may just mean the difference between getting back with your spouse and living the the true love with the life of your dreams.